Where to start? You know and I know, something needs to change. I am that woman who has read through most of the fad diet books out there, half-attempted a dozen of them, and failed at executing all of them. Somehow I assumed if the diet book was sitting in my home, and I read the book, the pounds would magically melt off. The books collected dust, and I collected fat in my midsection, thighs, and rear.
In my personal journey to heal my headaches, lose weight and improve my energy; I’ve discovered one thing. There is a wealth of scientific evidence to back these findings up. At the core of the most effective “diets” out there, one concept keeps coming up. The most common forms of carbohydrates in our American diet are not healthy. This is due to genetically modified wheat products, specifically gluten. New York Times best-selling author, David Perlmutter, MD, discusses the science in detail in his book Grain Brain.
This week, let our mantra be: “Hold the Vision And Trust the Process”
You hopefully have had a chance to rest your mind this past summer through a vacation, going away to a retreat, or even trying meditation. At some point you had “the vision”. This is that connection to an idea, inspiration, or a dream. There is nothing more exciting than connecting to your vision, calling, or heart’s desire. Then, frustration kicks in—how is it going to happen? When? And where will I find the funding, time, energy, or motivation to do this?
I had that “go with the flow moment” when I finally saw the vision of me being on stage, speaking to crowds of 30 or 3,000 last year. Public speaking was the one part of my traditional medical career that always gave me joy, even on the days I felt burnt out from my job. I know, it is a unique situation. Most people fear public speaking, but for me it was honestly a childhood dream.
This week, let our mantra be: “Envision Success”
This morning I write this week’s mantra in between packing my Jimmy Choos for a trip to Fargo, North Dakota. (They are props, really) I sit in gratitude thinking of all of my colleagues, friends, and business associates around the Central Florida area. People have opened up their homes, businesses, yoga studios, and their hearts to allow me to practice my TEDx talk for TEDxFargo this coming week.
If you have ever heard me speak, you may surprised to know that I do not memorize any of my lectures. I have an outline on my presentation slides or in my mind, and then I go with the flow. Preparation for giving a TEDx talk is a different journey. You have less than 18 minutes to share your “ideas worth spreading”, so a different type of preparation is required.
In true Romie left-brained-fashion I was determined to rehearse my lecture at least 100 times before I left for Fargo, and I was using my lecture notes as a crutch. I was so worried that I would forget an important point, that to know one’s surprise I was getting stuck at the same place every time. I would look up to the person watching script and get a verbal cue. Panic was engraved in my mind. No one will be there to cue me on stage. It was too easy to start creating a negative mindset envisioning all the ways I could fail, “what if I forget my speech, trip in my heels, or no one laughs…”
Have you done this to yourself before? You have set yourself up to fail before a big event like your wedding, a big presentation for work, an important race? Mindset is everything. You know that, I know that, we all know that. However, when we are stuck in a mind frequency of panic, anxiety, and fear, shifting our thoughts to a place of positivity may be an impossible task.Read More
This week, let our mantra be: “I follow my dreams”
I’ve been see-sawing between a humbled state of self-reflection and giddiness the last couple of weeks. At any given moment, I break out into a #HappyDance (and I admit without rhythm). In less than two weeks I have the honor to share my message on the TEDx stage in Fargo, ND where the theme is “On Purpose”. Goosebumps.
I’m not only humbled at the honor of the invitation, but how quickly the Universe works. Less than one year ago, I was sitting in prolonged meditation and connected to a joyful feeling I experienced in the 7th grade in Mrs. Reed’s English class. Mrs. Reed helped to foster my love for speaking and writing. As a young child my she-roes were Connie Chung, Barbara Walters, and Oprah Winfrey.
Are you living your life purpose right now? It is okay to say no, or maybe, or I am not sure. I knew for years I was far off course, but didn’t feel like I was allowed to admit it. We spend years obtaining education in a certain field, working at a particular company, and can feel stuck.
Let this week’s Mindful Mantra be: “Compassion is My Strength”
As a mind-body medicine physician, it fills me with hope to watch the “mindful revolution” occurring in the business world. In the last six months we have seen the the theme of mindfulness on the cover of Time magazine. We are hearing about how numerous business schools are incorporating mindfulness based training programs into curriculum. You may even be a part of this mindful living community because you heard me speak at your company on the neuroscience behind mindfulness.
Self-compassion and compassion towards others are two of the steps I discuss my mindful living program, “Mindset Matters”. The same question arises from corporate and coaching clients alike. Is showing compassion and kindness a sign of weakness?”
“Compassion and tolerance are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.” Dalai Lama
I start by answering what compassion means in the scope of mindful living. Compassion is caring about another person's happiness as if it were your own. Compassion is neither empathy nor sympathy, but requires both. Empathy involves responding to another person's emotions with emotions that are similar. Sympathy entails feeling regret for another person's suffering.