This week, let our mantra be: “Envision Success”
This morning I write this week’s mantra in between packing my Jimmy Choos for a trip to Fargo, North Dakota. (They are props, really) I sit in gratitude thinking of all of my colleagues, friends, and business associates around the Central Florida area. People have opened up their homes, businesses, yoga studios, and their hearts to allow me to practice my TEDx talk for TEDxFargo this coming week.
If you have ever heard me speak, you may surprised to know that I do not memorize any of my lectures. I have an outline on my presentation slides or in my mind, and then I go with the flow. Preparation for giving a TEDx talk is a different journey. You have less than 18 minutes to share your “ideas worth spreading”, so a different type of preparation is required.
In true Romie left-brained-fashion I was determined to rehearse my lecture at least 100 times before I left for Fargo, and I was using my lecture notes as a crutch. I was so worried that I would forget an important point, that to know one’s surprise I was getting stuck at the same place every time. I would look up to the person watching script and get a verbal cue. Panic was engraved in my mind. No one will be there to cue me on stage. It was too easy to start creating a negative mindset envisioning all the ways I could fail, “what if I forget my speech, trip in my heels, or no one laughs…”
Have you done this to yourself before? You have set yourself up to fail before a big event like your wedding, a big presentation for work, an important race? Mindset is everything. You know that, I know that, we all know that. However, when we are stuck in a mind frequency of panic, anxiety, and fear, shifting our thoughts to a place of positivity may be an impossible task.Read More
This week, let our mantra be: “I follow my dreams”
I’ve been see-sawing between a humbled state of self-reflection and giddiness the last couple of weeks. At any given moment, I break out into a #HappyDance (and I admit without rhythm). In less than two weeks I have the honor to share my message on the TEDx stage in Fargo, ND where the theme is “On Purpose”. Goosebumps.
I’m not only humbled at the honor of the invitation, but how quickly the Universe works. Less than one year ago, I was sitting in prolonged meditation and connected to a joyful feeling I experienced in the 7th grade in Mrs. Reed’s English class. Mrs. Reed helped to foster my love for speaking and writing. As a young child my she-roes were Connie Chung, Barbara Walters, and Oprah Winfrey.
Are you living your life purpose right now? It is okay to say no, or maybe, or I am not sure. I knew for years I was far off course, but didn’t feel like I was allowed to admit it. We spend years obtaining education in a certain field, working at a particular company, and can feel stuck.
Let this week’s Mindful Mantra be: “Compassion is My Strength”
As a mind-body medicine physician, it fills me with hope to watch the “mindful revolution” occurring in the business world. In the last six months we have seen the the theme of mindfulness on the cover of Time magazine. We are hearing about how numerous business schools are incorporating mindfulness based training programs into curriculum. You may even be a part of this mindful living community because you heard me speak at your company on the neuroscience behind mindfulness.
Self-compassion and compassion towards others are two of the steps I discuss my mindful living program, “Mindset Matters”. The same question arises from corporate and coaching clients alike. Is showing compassion and kindness a sign of weakness?”
“Compassion and tolerance are not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.” Dalai Lama
I start by answering what compassion means in the scope of mindful living. Compassion is caring about another person's happiness as if it were your own. Compassion is neither empathy nor sympathy, but requires both. Empathy involves responding to another person's emotions with emotions that are similar. Sympathy entails feeling regret for another person's suffering.
This week, let our mantra be: “I choose to respond, not to react”
As many of you already know, I enjoy my time daily on Twitter. My bio lists my services, one of which is that I am a professional speaker. To my surprise, last week a company reached out to me to offer their services. They specialize in “teaching physicians how to speak proper English.”
As I read that tweet, I could feel my heart rate picking up and had to remind myself, #BreatheB4Tweeting. (yes my mind now thinks in tweets and hashtags) I will be honest, in that moment only very assertive and stern responses were coming to my mind. I didn’t react, but I was having a hard time trying to process the situation. While I knew it was a moment to try to practice compassion, I was truly struggling on how to do so. My buttons got pushed, it is wrong to assume someone with a unique name does not speak English.
Certainly many of you reading this article have faced ignorance and dealt with negative stereotypes because of gender, race, religion, or sexual orientation. I reached out to my personal friends on Facebook, and I was quickly put in check with responses like “remember Grace” and “your ego is not your amigo.” It was great advice, but I was feeling even more defeated. Why?
This week, let our mantra be: “Everything Serves a Purpose”
I used to have to drive through a desert and mountains for 2 hours to get to an airport. While driving to catch a flight, I was abruptly halted by losing control of my car on the highway. A piece of scrap metal scraped the under carriage of my car and blew out two of my tires. I called roadside assistance, and when the tow truck arrived I was pretty much half way between home and the airport. George from Imperial Valley towing asked, “Where are you going, and where would you like me to take you?”
I was overwhelmed, exhausted, and ready to give up, thinking it was sign that I’m not suppose to go to Maui, but to turn around and go back to work. “I don’t know what to do. I’m going to Maui for the first time in my life, to go to a spiritual retreat with this author and my spiritual teacher, Alan Cohen. Maybe this is a sign that I am not suppose to be going on vacation. This is easily $1000 or more worth of damage to my car.”
A knowing smile crossed George’s face, “Alan Cohen? I just read his book, The Dragon Don’t Live Here Anymore. I’m going to get you to the San Diego airport and drop your car off at the dealership on the way there”