On This Monday, let our mantra be: “I Forgive You. You Forgive Me. We Forgive We.”
Forgiveness, it is one of the ultimate acts of Grace. Yet this form of Grace has been one of the most difficult for me to master. How about you?
I heard the above mantra at a medical conference last week. The physician discussed the issue of forgiveness and how it helps our health. When we don’t allow ourselves to forgive a person or a situation, we hold a grudge. Scientific studies show that people who hold a grudge are more likely to have a heart attack and die from a heart attack. The stress of holding a grudge both physically and spiritually hurts our hearts.
I feel a palpable shift in my psyche. No, not from a shoe sale. I was blessed to be on the road for business for two weeks in locations where I could make detours to connect to girlfriends. Not just girlfriends, but those women in my life I call sister-friends. You know that woman in your life- it’s been months or years since you have seen each other, but laughter and tears pick up like it was 7 minutes ago. I had the opportunity to giggle with girlfriends and reduce any trace of stress in my soul.Read More
On This Monday, let our mantra be: “I allow myself to be still”
“It’s Monday! Be Still? Do you know how much I am already behind on?” Don’t roll your eyes at me. We all feel that way on Monday mornings. I am already adding items to the endless “to-do” list without a even a moment to cross another item off.
Just take a breath and say it, “I allow myself to be still”.
Be still. What does that mean? For me, it means I need to stop banging my head against the wall when I can’t think of a solution to a problem. Is there a challenge at your job or in your life in which you feel stuck in finding the answer?
Walk away. Literally. Change the scenery to stimulate your brain with different sights and sounds. Take a few deep breaths. Focus on your new surroundings. If the problem was bigger (like transforming my career) I had to be still for longer.
I admit, it is not always comfortable. That feeling will pass. When you get past the feeling of discomfort, miracles and transformations start occurring. How? By being still we can quiet the over-analytical mind that can have us running in circles around a solution. By being still we can tune into our “gut instinct” or “intuition”.
Practical advice on how to be still:
1) If you are feeling anxious, walk away from your desk. Stretch your legs and walk around the office or take a quick walk outside. (This does not mean walking around checking emails on your smartphone.)
2) If you feel drained or your mind feels “stuck”: Turn off the computer and your smartphone for just a few minutes, close your eyes and focus on your heartbeat.
We can’t find solutions to problems if we are in the same mindset that created them. Change your frame of mind, and you will change how your frame your problem.
Try it, and let me know how you feel.
“I allow myself to be still”
Have you ever been traveling and just can't sleep? I shot up, wide awake, at 3:45am this morning. Really. Technically it’s 6:45 on the East Coast where I live, but still, this is feeling a little crazy.Read More
On This Monday, let our mantra be: “I shift to an attitude of gratitude.”
Expressing gratitude has become a cliché statement in our society. It is too often overlooked like the gratitude journal sitting on the back of my bookshelf that I meant to start writing in every morning. Actually there may be several of them sitting there.
Instead of making expression of gratitude feel like a chore, I came up with simple daily acts that have now become a habit. Expressing gratitude can be as simple as saying thank you to a stranger, making a thank you phone call, or writing a quick email to acknowledge someone that made a small difference in our lives.
Scientific studies show positive changes occur in the brain not only of the person receiving the thank you, but even more so for the person expressing gratitude. Gratitude releases chemicals in the brain that promote relaxation, elevates mood, and reduces stress.
This morning my friend’s 9 year-old son saw me composing the Monday Mantra. He rattled off three statements of gratitude as he was told he is running late to school. “I am thankful for my yummy breakfast, I am thankful that I slept good last night, and I am thankful that Halloween is this week”. His facial expression shifted from one of stress to a big smile, and then he skipped out the door.
Add a skip to your step this Monday, what are you grateful for?
“I shift to an attitude of gratitude”.