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4 Brain Secrets for Happiness
Written by Dr. Romie on Oct 5, 2015
Mind Tags: MindjoyhappinessgratitudeBrain

What are the four secrets to wire your brain for happiness?

There is a myth that happy people are happy all the time.  Happiness is not an emotion or personality trait that exists 24/7, but rather a state of mind that can be achieved.  

Depression can feel like a downward spiral, and pulling out of a blue state may feel impossible. In his new book The Upward Spiral, neuroscientist Alex Korb explains the intricate brain processes that cause depression.  There are four simple rituals you can start today to rewire your brain to be happy.


It is often thought if you were born unhappy, a glass half empty kind of person you can’t change, is this true?

As brain science advances one thing has become clear in the last decade, the brain can change “or rewire” in the way it functions and is structured depending how the brain is trained and stimulated. 

When it comes to unlocking the secret behind happiness, it is not as big of a mystery as we think.  There are four rituals that have been proven in neuroscience to rewire our brains to see the glass half full and to feel happy.


What are the rituals people can practice to learn to be happy?

STEP 1. The first step is to adopt an attitude of gratitude.  

Happier people practice daily rituals of expressing gratitude.

Try it.  Name three things you are grateful for right now.  Scientific studies show it elevates dopamine in the brain stem- part of the reward system of the brain.  Being thankful also boosts serotonin level.  These are all the "feel good" chemicals in the brain that boost happiness naturally.

STEP 2. The second step is to name your emotion, even if it is negative.  

A key principle in spiritual psychology is, "what we resist persists."  If you are feeling bad, state it. When you put feelings into words, you distance yourself away from those feelings.  Detaching yourself from negative feelings helps your brain to detach from the emotional loop that starts ruminating and get lost in a spiral of dark emotions.

STEP 3. Make a decision.  

Indecisiveness and second guessing yourself will fuel negative feelings of anxiety.  Understand there is never such a thing as the perfect decision. Don’t get stuck in trying to make the absolute 100% best decision. We all know being a perfectionist can be stressful. And brain studies back this up. Trying to make a perfect decision can lead to procrastination. Instead, make a “good enough” decision, this is the best possible decision you think is right in the moment.  

Eastern spiritual wisdom teaches us the first instinct is usually the correct instinct.

STEP 4.  One of the rituals is about human touch, how can this make us happier people?

Humans need to feel love and accepted by people, and when we don’t feel a sensation of love it is painful.  The brain registers a lack of touch or love and severe pain.
Touching is incredibly powerful. We just don’t give it enough credit. It makes you more persuasive, increases team performance, improves your flirting.  (a skill useful for all of us single gals). Touching releases a powerful hormone called oxytocin that fuels happiness.    


Last but not least, remember we must slow down to speed up.  A path to happiness is not a sprint, but training for a marathon.  
Start by telling me, what are three things you are thankful for today?  Post below and I hold an intention for happiness for you on your journey.

With love,
Dr. Romie


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