As a part of our global mindful living community, I know I am not alone in having to stand in the face of fear. Tests appear in all of our lives, right? Maybe it is having to hear a diagnosis of chronic health issue, walking away from a stable paycheck to become an entrepreneur, or ending a relationship that is no longer filling your heart with love.
What is the difference between the mindset of people who can stand up to those fears and those who buckle under the pressure? It is not the lack of courage. Courage lies deep within all of us, we just have to learn how to cultivate it during times of darkness.
"Worrying is betting against yourself"
This past month I was inspired by one of my clients who is an elementary school teacher at a school where financial and social challenges weigh heavily on the young children. She created a "Worry Jar" with empty pieces of paper next to it and placed it on her desk. At the start of the school day, she reminded students to write down any worries (anonymously) to get rid of them out of their minds. She would then "throw their worries" away. Initially, the children were shy to come up and take a piece of paper, because no one wanted to admit they were the "only person" who worried.
The next morning everyone got a piece of paper at their desk with the instructions to write one thing that was worrying them that day. It was no surprise that everyone (teacher included)started to feverishly scribbled their worries away. The lesson is everyone has worries- small, big, or overwhelming.Read More
"There is hope in healing. When we learn to conquer stress, we can create work-life balance and find joy in our lives. I guide clients to connect to inner peace despite external life chaos." -Dr. Romie
My Mission in Healing:
I want to bring hope back to your healing. My clients all share a similar story: successful professionals that have lost their way due to a health scare, a broken heart or a financial crisis. It manifests as stress-based diseases such as headaches, anxiety, insomnia, depression or a stubborn muffin top. What is the real story? You don't feel like you are worthy? You don't know if you are good enough? Or have you just lost hope for healing? I believe you can connect to inner peace despite life's external chaos. This is how we heal mind, body, and spirit.Read More
I have been there more than once. It made me feel weak, and even ashamed at myself. I have watched so many women I love and care about in that place. You feel helpless when it is yourself, and even more so when it is your sister, BFF, mother, daughter, and/or colleague.
We aren't alone. Women have anxiety at a rate twice as often as men. Actually, an estimated 18 million women in the US, and that's counting those of us that admit it.
Does this story sound like you? I initially thought I just "needed a vacation". I was working 24/7 as a physician at a job where I was contracted and paid to work "part time". Due to another colleague abruptly leaving, I went without a break/day off in the busy winter season for months. It took me a long time to realize I had boundary issues (although this was painfully obvious to anyone around me). When things finally slowed down and I couldn't take it anymore, I escaped to Maui. It took the whole week at a spiritual retreat with one of my spiritual teachers, Alan Cohen, to just to catch up on sleep and unwind.
Let our mindful mantra this week be: “I choose peace over panic.”
Do you ever feel like your day is controlling you, even if everything was scheduled perfectly on your Google calendar? Last week I launched my first national online program, “Heal Your Headaches.” Despite months of careful planning, with just hours to go before the first live broadcast everything started to malfunction technically. I mean everything- the “top of the line” program used to host webinars, my wireless internet connection, software on my laptop, and most importantly my mind.
With each minute on hold for technical support, my panic levels were rising. I could feel every muscle of my neck and shoulders tighten up and a massive tension headache coming on. As the headache set in, my voice was becoming more rapid and tense. How could I soothe others who suffer from headaches in this state?
When people hear me speak or read my blog, I get often get asked, where do these mindful mantras come from? My real life. I try to take mindfulness from my meditation mat into daily living. And like meditation, it is a practice. Our minds can be a sponge for negative emotions and thoughts. A mantra is a phrase or affirmation. Repeating these positive phrases can not only elevate the mood, but also change our perspective on how we cope with external circumstances.